I've realized that I've come to accept that my kids will periodically hit the pause button on their progress from child to adult, even now when they range from 22-18, there are times when none of them seem to want to grow up. I'm okay with that, as long as when they decide they're ready to go again, the continue forward, in a linear motion, instead of reversing, or going in a repetitive circular motion, repeating all of their former mistakes.
The oldest has his job back & trying again. He's saving money, making plans and moving along in his life. He just got another car (to replace the one he had that died), a new laptop & is planning a trip out to see us in July, so he's moving forward again, which is always a good thing. I expect there will be the typical ups & downs, the bumps in the road, but he'll be alright, as long as he keeps moving forward & doesn't get mad at another boss or job situation & walk away again.
My other son is making gestures towards starting his journey forward again. He's planning to go to Colorado for work so he can pay off his fines & try to actually start a new life. I worry about him, he doesn't show a lot of self-control at times & there are a lot of nasty drugs out there, but I have to trust that he's off the circular path & back on the linear one & that he knows what's best for him.
The youngest seems to still be on the circular merry-go-round, which is okay, she is the youngest & has the least experience out there in the world. I expect that she'll keep making some of the same mistakes over & over for awhile. She is, after all, still in the mind set that she wants her own life, but wants many things to stay the same as they were when she was little, like Easter baskets & Christmas stockings. I just hope that soon, she'll start to learn from those mistakes, & take some life lessons away with her, instead of just learning not to let us know what she's doing because we're going to be pissed off about it.